I see counselling as Tony Merry says  “It refers to an underlying attitude that contributes to the quality of the relationship between client and counsellor. The client is regarded as the ‘expert’ in his or her life, and the counsellor is intent only on creating the kind of relationship in which this expertise can be expressed”

The relationship between the client and the counsellor is at the heart of all counselling. Coupled with a non directive approach relationships may flourish. This  non-directivity helps create a therapeutic environment into which the client can self direct. This may or may not end in client growth. Principled non-directivity has no agenda for the client. However, as the client’s self determination is paramount the therapist’s task is to support this self determination to the best of their ability. (D Grant)